Editor's Note: Jewel Taylor is an independent novelist and columnist with a keen interest in relationships and romance. Her Pillow Talk column is published here on Fridays. Opinions expressed are solely her own. Email column suggestions to Jewel@JewelTaylor.com.

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Has it been months since you’ve been on a date? Do you avoid hitting the clubs and bars to meet new people? Do you hate the awkward tension of a blind date?

Well, if you’re looking to meet people in your area with similar interests, maybe Internet dating is right for you.

Internet dating is the hot, quick way to meet people from the comfort of your home. All you need are three key things:

1.) A dating website that caters to your interests (for black singles, Christian singles, interracial dating, etc.)
2.) A few chosen words that spotlight your personality, values and dating preferences.
3.) Some recent, flattering photos that show you at your best.

From there it’s simple. You communicate with members you’re interested in and screen your date prospects through emails and instant messages (IM).

The good thing about Internet dating is you can meet dozens of interesting men and women in a very short time. Once you setup your profile, it works 24/7, whether you’re online or not.

The anonymity of the Net encourages even the shyest dater to make moves and approach people they never would in person. Individuals on the site are interested in meeting people, whether they are seeking a casual pen pal or a serious relationship. So you can avoid the awkwardness and uncertainty we sometimes experience in a social environment where a person’s relationship status or sexual orientation may be unclear.

Although Internet Dating is quick and convenient, there are some things to consider. It’s easy for predators to hide behind a cyberspace profile. That’s why you must take precautions when chatting online.

Avoid sharing personal information like your home or work address. Don’t use your legal name as your user name. Limit information on your children. Take time and get to know your date prospects and ask as many questions as you can.

Remember, it’s called Internet dating for a reason. Spend time chatting with new friends via email and IM before rushing into phone conversations or face-to-face meetings. By reading a profile closely, you can quickly weed out daters whose interests, age, values, religion, etc., don't appeal to you.

Also, don’t assume everyone online is truthful or has the same intentions. Some daters lie on their profiles. They avoid sharing their true age. Some use pictures they’ve stolen from others or “borrow” pictures from family members or friends.

You also have the serial daters who use the Internet for free meals on first dates. And don’t forget what I call the cyber whores – people who use the Net strictly for sex. So it’s important for you to know what you want before you jump into the Internet dating scene. Then take your time and screen, screen, screen.

So, Qcity, if you’re tired of another boring weekend at home, give Internet dating a try. Set up your profile and get ready to meet new friends. And most important, think safety at all times.

As always, wishing you much love, sex and romance! Happy hunting!

~ Jewel

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